Thank you for expanding and sharing this story as I whole-heartedly agree. I am actually re-married and going strong on 6 years at this point and love each day while we continue to tweak, refine, and work towards respecting and loving one another. My first marriage ended in divorce as we both made the relationship solely about my needs, my wants, my expectations. Like your friend, I bought into the Myth of The One, and as you aptly pointed out, when you’re selfish in a relationship, it’s bound to implode. Study after study continues to show that the key factor in couples staying together is kindness and a sacrificial mindset. Great thoughts!