Isn’t that the question of the ages? I think both for the culture at large and for men (and some women) who are so used to using it daily or weekly, how do we, indeed, get the genie back in the bottle?

Once I saw the effects it was having on my life and learned the science and neurology behind it, I started making a change. The problem is, it’s so damn addicting I found myself going maybe a week at max without falling right back into it. There are levels obviously. Some people can quit cold turkey. Most, however, are stuck battling relapse. What I found worked in my life were programs and accountability. Eventually, I hated porn so much and what it was doing to me that it disgusted me when I went back to it. I’ve met a lot of men who feel the same way these days. SA (Sexaholics Anonymous) has seen a large influx of people struggling with porn and I’ve known quite a few men who’ve found recovery and success possible.

In regards to culture though? I don’t think outlawing it is the answer (though it’s an easy one naturally). I think a lot of it has to do with the loneliness and isolation men feel these days that have them acting out violently (mass shootings) and sexually (assault, rape). As someone who works in the mental health space, I believe the answers start there as well as education. But this is pure conjecture also and could be simplifying the problem.

Alas, I wanted to ring the warning bell, but how people respond ultimately depends on what they do with the information.

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