Ha, okay, I’ll bite Valley Runner :)
I think you inferred a lot for a 1,500 word article. Honestly, I think most people do because longer articles just don’t get read, and they also don’t encompass an author’s worldview. Storytelling is my forte and where my strengths lay, so running around citing the research takes up more time than people care about. I would encourage you to read some of our top psychologist’s research on the topic of fatherlessness. Read anything from Philip Zimbardo’s Demise of Guys to Dr. Leonard Sax’s Boys Adrift. President Obama even had a task force created because of the research and correlation between fatherless homes and poverty and violence. I think it’s important to note that studies are showing the power of having a father in the home and the importance of a male figure in a child’s life to train them. In fact, a team of researchers at John Hopkins School of Medicine set out on a 30-year study to find if a single related cause existed for five major issues: mental illness, hypertension, malignant tumors, coronary heart disease, and suicide. After studying 1,377 students over thirty years, the most prevalent single cause wasn’t what everyone thought. They found that the most significant predictor of these five tragedies was a lack of closeness to the parents, especially the father. The research is going to back this up. I just wasn’t about to go on a tangent in the middle of the article and cite source after source as it dilutes the message I was trying to get across and tells another story.
The other things you pointed out were simply inferred. I never once said the guy’s behavior in the intro story was juvenile. I asked if she throat punched him because, like you pointed out, it’s sexual assault. When I stated “They need other men of character who will challenge them gently on their juvenile behavior,” it had nothing to do with the initial story, but more of the reality that men lacking character act trite and juvenile as opposed to humble and compassionate. The professors and teachers comment I made is that it takes a village to raise a child. How often do you see movies or hear stories about teachers inspiring their students to greatness? How many times have you heard a student talk about a teacher that had a lasting impact on them (hell, my wife even talks about one of her teachers).
Lastly, I will politely disagree with you regarding women challenging men. While you say it’s victim blaming, I think it’s more detrimental to tell women not to stand up for themselves and creates victims instead. I want my daughter to challenge men to grow up especially if they want to date her. I want her to be strong and independent and let them know that behavior is unacceptable. Women should take a stand against this crap, because it only furthers sexual assault when they don’t report it or let it slide.
I tried to present tangible solutions instead of bemoaning the current state and character development in men was my the main point of the article, not sexual assault of a fatherless generation. Those aspect just played supporting roles. I guess I’m more curious why you wanted to pick it apart line by line? Instead, I’d love to hear your perspective on how you think we go about changing misogyny and cultivating respect for the opposite sex?