Aura, I agree with what you described at the end. I think we spend far to much time falling in “like” as opposed to building friendships. I think friendships come first, but romantic feelings should be mutual on both sides if it’s to move forward. My wife and I were friends long before we dated. We even went old school and kinda “courted” one another. We just hung out in large groups of our friends and then started asking out friends “hey, do you think we’d be good together or is she/he a doofus?” Our friends said we’d make a good couple and the rest is history. We’ve been together almost eight years now.