Amber, that’s a tough place to be. That sounds like year 7 of my marriage for me where we fought like cats and dogs. I wanted to give up some days and I know she did too. That’s also the hard part about love is weathering the storm, and often we want to know how long the storm intends to last don’t we? More often than not I think we forget our vows “For better or worse,” but is worse last too long, we have a tendency to bail. This isn’t me saying people should stay in abusive relationships or domestic roommate situations for eternity, but that if you put in the hard work to actually work at the marriage, you can come out the other side of the storm… though often it doesn’t feel like that will happen. As you grow and change, continue to learn and empathize with each other, mirroring and validating what the other person says. It doesn’t mean you have to agree with your spouse, but that you’re offering empathy and understanding. I’m also an advocate for Marriage bootcamps and counseling that is emotional focused (EFT) too.
Hoping and praying you come out the other side of this.