Ah well… you can’t knock ’em all out of the park every time, Jim :) But to your question, you asked, “when has American culture ever praised commitment?” That’s easy. Every single movie and TV show to tabloids promotes the idea (or at least until it falls apart). The Notebook people hail as a beauty love story of undying commitment. Every rom-com out there pushes the ideal from Crazy, Stupid, Love (which I found the most realistic out of the bunch) to Noting Hill to Jerry McGuire. People rooted for Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie to make it and were heartbroken when they didn’t. Same for Channing Tatum and his wife. We love the idea, except in practice. It’s all around us in literature to music. Even Bruno Mars croons on how he’d jump on a grenade for his love.
And to push back on people not knowing “what” they’re committing to or defining it, I’d point out that every marriage ceremony lays it out pretty clearly—for better or worse, in sickness and in health, until death. It’s one thing to get caught up in semantics over definitions, but most of us inherently know what commitment looks like. But to your point, we’ve become so lazy none of us know what we’re committing to, so we just assume. So yes, I’ll concede that couples need to have better conversations about that, but that also comes down to being able to communicate effectively, which is vital for any relationship.
Anyway, thanks for writing in and the input. Like I said, I agree with some of your points, but more than that, I’m just glad you’ve enjoyed my work so far. Best to you bro!